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Divorce Fit: Building Mental Strength through Separation
Divorce isn’t just a legal journey but a pretty hard mental and emotional workout as well. In fact, I would rank a divorce up there with the hardest Soul Cycle class you could ever take. Done twice over! It’s like I tell people, we invest thousands of dollars on gym memberships, diets and coaches for our outside appearance, often neglecting what goes on between our ears. I’m talking about the many cognitive distortions we are all guilty of that are basically the equivalent of muscle - or brain matter- atrophy.
The Divorce “Glow-Up”
Divorce can often conjure up images of sullen, bitter people, forever tarred by their failed marriage. It certainly is not typically considered sexy. But having gone through divorce myself, I’ve never felt healthier, which equals hotter!
Divorce in your 20’s: Five Empowering Lessons from your “Starter Marriage”
I was sitting alone on the bathroom floor when I realized it was over. My ex-husband had abruptly confessed to feelings of doubt and incompatibility throughout a 3-year marriage, cumulative 10-year relationship. I distinctly remember experiencing a sharp flare of shame and guilt as I thought, “You’re getting a divorce at 27? How embarrassing.”
What makes a good divorce coach?
Divorce coaching has experienced burgeoning growth over the last few decades, but is still a relatively new concept. Personally, I am on a mission to make divorce coaching a household name so that when someone is getting divorced, rather than asking “Who is your lawyer?” we are asking “Who is your divorce coach?” Divorce coaching is too important a service to not make it into mainstream divorce culture. But for the profession to really take off, it’s important that good coaches are rewarded and those that do not hold themselves to high standards are weeded out.
Harnessing Professional Growth Through Divorce
The complexities of divorce offer the perfect opportunity to develop professional skills, or sharpen the ones you already have. Little did you know that it may not be Ivy league schools or fancy degrees that set you apart, but rather the very skills required to get divorced i.e. negotiation, resourcefulness, organization, problem solving and communication. It shouldn’t take long before you realize that the ordeal you just endured left you with super powers that translate into your personal life, but also into your career after divorce.
Top Four Reasons People Cry Themselves to Sleep During Divorce…and Helpful Antidotes to Each
The top four frustrations people lose sleep over during divorce, as well as helpful antidotes and strategies to cope with each. If you had to poll a family law attorney, my bet is their list would look similar. With any luck these bring comfort knowing that you are not alone and there is no need to cry yourself to sleep during a divorce
Divorce Trapped Me, But I Have an Exit Strategy
Every divorced person I have encountered has a story with underlying tones of feeling fleeced, cheated or trapped. I fall into the latter and have dug deep for peace using these steps. My formula ignores the obvious, which is the fact that for many, divorce can bring profound freedom. Emotional freedom or perhaps even freedom from abuse, addiction or adultery. Don’t give any more energy to what you cannot change or control. Be open to the possibility that this situation could actually give you wings to fly.
Building Tolerance for Uncertainty During Divorce
Fear of the unknown during a divorce is like being in a cave of inky darkness. Having experienced the breathtaking worry of not knowing where I will be living, how I will make a living and where my children will be on which night of the week, I am able to validate and relate to anyone dealing with this. Here are some pointers to cope with uncertainty and instability during divorce and beyond.
How do I know I am ready to forgive?
Forgiveness, at the end of the day, is less about them and more about setting you free, about releasing your spirit. Forgiveness does not equal condoning behavior. Here are five signs that indicate you are ready to forgive, or perhaps have already forgiven, your ex-spouse or the circumstances that led to your divorce
Awakening from my Virtual Reality
Gradually my virtual reality of loss, fear, betrayal and grief after a divorce shifted into something that resembled, dare I say, “glass half full” thinking?