“Who do I need to be? As that person, what would I need to do in order to have happiness?” It helps even more, to find a role model, someone that seems to have a great relationship with their ex-spouse where the child/ren are at the center, not in the middle. I have the perfect example that comes to mind…. During COVID when salons were closed my friend’s ex, learnt how to adjust her extensions and reapply them for her.